Tuesday, January 3, 2017

How to help a student with underachievement or poor performance in school?





Have you come across any student who is labeled as 'lazy'?  
Do you know any child who is intelligent with lot of aptitudes but not performing nicely and feel like he needs a push?

Well that student is an underachiever!!!

They often receive stereotyped comments such as 'not working to full potential', 'lazy'.

Few people work with full capacity, but some children with considerable academic ability fail at subjects, in which they should succeed. 

Underachievers are children who perform below their potential at their academics. Gown has stated children who perform below 20% at academics compared to their IQ test results are diagnosed as underachievers. In broader classification, there are two categories of underachievers:

1. Situational Underachievers

Moody guys and gals who some time tell 'nya nya nya na na for studies!!!'.

These students perform better when they are in good moods. More likely their poor performance in school is due to emotional crises that suddenly erupts: a break up of relation, family problem, personality clash with a teacher.

2. Chronic underachiever

These children are aggressive. They refuse to develop their talent. They can become, withdrawn.

Mandel and Marcus identified six types of underachievers. They are:

1. Coasters- Those who are ultimate procrastinators, easy going and unmotivated. They always tell 'hey, tomorrow is the best day for studies'. But tomorrow is always tomorrow. Tomorrow is perpetual. Every day they hold the book they tell 'today is a holiday or today it's too late'. This lack of studies makes him or her a student with underachievement.
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2. Anxious underachievers- want to be better but are too tensed to achieve the goal. Their expectation is too high. Because of this they get too much tensed and they get nervous before the exam. This is the reason for their lower performance in school.

3. Identity searchers- wrapped up in finding who they
 are and get distracted from school work. This might be due to too much exposure towards philosophy and spirituality. They are more fascinated towards soul, god, self, the reason for their existence. This makes him or her a student with underachievement.

4. Wheeler- dealers-impulsive and manipulative, need instant gratification and don't value  school work. This leads to lower performance in school.

5. Sad under achievers-lack energy for school work because of depression and low self esteem.

6. Defiant underachievers-  underachieve as an act of rebellion. 'Hey,you force me to study right? oh! you think you are a big guy? O.k let me see who is strong?' is the thinking pattern of such students.  

Signs and symptoms
1. Impulsive, poor personal judgment and adjustment abilities.
2. Have poor test results at school and no hobbies at home.
3. Have low self image, distrust, indifference and lack of concern.
4. Feel helpless and don't take responsibility of their
              actions.
5. Feel rejected by family and resist attempt by teachers and family to help them.
6. Choose friends with similar attitude may be less mature than peers and don't show leadership qualities.
7. Have little motivation with poor study habits, may refuse to do home work  or leave much work incomplete.
8. Either cannot plan for future or set goals to their full potential.

Identifying underachiever and core causes

1. Physical causes
Any problems in vision, hearing can be one of the major hurdles for the child which is making  the child slow in learning. It may cause the child lose interest in studies. Even epilepsy and other nervous defects can cause slow learning.

2. Delayed mile stone of brain development
In the case of mentally retarded child the learning is slow. Because the child  has low IQ.

3. Specific delays of academic skills
Any learning disorders, may be can listen, learn, tell answer but cannot write. Eventough the child is intelligent there may be some difficulty in learning a specific subject. May be the child has less focus and child is more focused in a specific subject.
4. Inattentive, over reactive, impulsive child
Attention deficit Hyper reactivity disorder, restlessness may be the reasons. Child will be unable to sit and study. Child all the time wants to be active. He/ She will be unable to check the speed of mind. So they are unable to put subjects in their mind.

5. Emotional and conduct disorders
A. School Phobia- child is afraid of school may be because of too much attachments with parents or grandparents. In school the child may not have anyone to duplicate the attention, love and sense of belonging showered by family members.
    If not there should be too much aggressive teacher in the school looking at whom the student     remembers some devil in the fairy tale. There might be a fatso who is bullying on him.  

B.  Anxiety, Depression- If a child is sensitive he/she will be unable to bear too much pressure. So if they have any over dominating or over criticizing family member or friend. They might develop neurosis.

C. Defiant disorder
    Do you force  child to spend less time on toilet commode? Think again toilet training makes    children defiant. They never listen to any one. Even though they realize benefit in parents or     teachers advice, they simply don't follow the advice because that was told by parents and   teachers.

Strategies to help underachievers

1. Special guidance
Give guidance but let the child make decision and you don't force decision. For example what kind of dress he should wear or how he should use his pocket money or what kind of friends he should have so and so forth.
The trick here is making the child feel he/she is doing it by themselves and they are enjoying doing that. They are not puppets in hands of anyone. They are masters of their life. Their wishes are coming true. Teachers and parents are just like angels.
  
2. Assignments and teaching methods
Should be adjusted to the individual interests and abilities of the student. If a child is interested in arts class may be he/she can be taken to drawing or crafts class. If they like a particular game. Letting them play is one of the best ideas. Psychologists warn parents of underachievers not to take off child's  favorite toy!

3. Individual training programs
The training should be tailor made for each student. It does not mean that the training should be one to one. It only means that the training should meet individual needs of the child. It requires the plan which describes the skill deficit, strengths and areas to be worked on.

4. Sessions to set up goals
It often helps to set achievable goals. The goals can be put in a priority order. But flexibility of goal must be ensured. Teachers and parents should not monitor them regularly. If regularly monitored they might feel they are irresponsible.

5. Tutoring by senior citizens
They tell 'if age could do and youth can think the world will be a better place'. The children don't know where
they are heading towards, because of lack of experience and lack of maturity. Underachievers have a need to be told by someone who has already explored the world. They need to be convinced smoothly without brutal force.


6. Grouping
Having a group of underachievers of all age group is really a good idea. These children can tell their juniors what are the loses they had experienced. Younger children will realize the problems they might face if they don't perform nicely. As elder children have come through that path they can understand their juniors more easily  and guide them.

Children don't turn achievers over night. They should be ensured with a curriculum with study skills as follows:

1. Preparatory study skills
Skills like time management, self management, etc. These skills help children to effectively face the exam. As underachievers don't know how to manage time and manage various resources they have. They should be taught all these things.

2. Acquisition study skills
These are the skills which help children gather information. These include reading and writing skills. Reading skills include mnemonics, peg system, visualization, etc. Writing skills include mind maps, note taking, etc.  

3. Expression study skills
These skills help children get good scores in tests and exams. This include oral and written expressions like essay writing, summarizing, brainstorming.
  

Underachievers need help not labels. If you label any child as 'lazy or poor performer'. Please think again. They might need help not label.

How to overcome Obsessive- Compulsive Disorder (OCD) or how to overcome repeated thoughts and uncontrollable behaviors?


Meaning
Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is a chronic and long-lasting disorder in which a person has uncontrollable, reoccurring thoughts (obsessions) and behaviors (compulsions) that he or she feels the urge to repeat over and over.

It is a mental disorder where people get certain thoughts repeatedly ("I hate myself", "I will kill my spouse", " I will hurt my children", "I am useless") .


They get strong cravings to check things repeatedly(checking whether they turned off the TV, Computer, water heater ,lock of the door) and perform certain rituals repeatedly (brushing teeth, using restroom, combing hair, bathing, cleaning hands and feet).

                                  
In the last stage the person may feel he/she is a slave for such thoughts and activities as, even though they are unwanted he/she cannot escape from them. Hence he may  commit suicide to prevent any damage that individual might cause to his/her beloved ones.

Signs and Symptoms
People with OCD may have symptoms of obsessions, compulsions, or both. These symptoms can interfere with all aspects of life, such as profession, education, and relationships with family and friends.
Obsessions are repetitive thoughts, cravings, or mental images that cause anxiety. Common symptoms include:
·         Fear of getting dirty
·         Fear of germs spreading on their body
·         Unwanted forbidden or taboo thoughts involving sex, religion, and hurting someone or self
·         Aggressive thoughts to damage others or self
·         Having things symmetrical or in a perfect order
Compulsions are repetitive behaviors that a patient with OCD try  to do because of obsessive thought. Common compulsions include:
·         Excessive cleaning of objects
·         Excessive washing of hands or feet
·         Repeated bathing
·         Arranging things in a particular or precise way
·         Repeatedly checking on things, such as repeatedly checking to see if the door is locked or that the water heater is off
Not all rituals or habits are compulsions. Everyone double checks things sometimes. But a person with OCD generally:
·         Cannot control his or her thoughts or behaviors, even though  they  are too much
·         They are not happy when performing the rituals, but they do it for short term relief and it reinforces the fear. This makes the obsession strong and it leads to anxiety. So to get relief they repetitively end up in rituals(compulsions). Like this OCD cycle becomes strong and self sustaining.   



OCD CYCLE

·         They experience plenty of problems in day to day life due to these thoughts or behaviors

Treatments and Therapies
OCD is generally treated with medicines, psychotherapy or a combination of the both
Medication
Serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SRIs) and selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) are used in the treatment of  OCD. Examples of medications that have been proven effective in both adults and children with OCD include clomipramine , which is a member of an older class of “tricyclic” antidepressants.
Psychotherapy
Psychotherapy can be an effective treatment for adults and children with OCD. Research has shown that certain types of psychotherapies, including cognitive behavior therapy (CBT) and other related therapies (e.g., habit reversal training) can be as effective as medication for many individuals.
Research also shows that a type of CBT called Exposure and Response Prevention (EX/RP) is effective in reducing compulsive behaviors in OCD, even in people who did not respond well to SRI medication. For many patients EX/RP is the add-on treatment of choice when SRIs or SSRIs medication does not effectively treat OCD symptoms.
ECT
In some severe cases, Electroconvulsive therapy (ECT) has been found to have worked effectively. It helps them relieve anxiety and breaks the OCD cycle.

Surgery
Surgery may be used as last option if patients do not improve with other treatments. In this procedure, a surgical lesion is made in an area of the brain (the cingulate cortex). Deep-brain  and vagus nerve stimulation are also possible surgical options and it does not deteriorate the Anatomy and physiology of brain tissue.
Exercise

Some aerobic exercise for 20 minutes every day or whenever they feel troubled by thoughts, they can take a brisk walk for ten minutes. This will give them a new place to observe and thereby they will be motivated to have new positive thought.

Emotional healing

Love and care by family can reduce symptoms so people with OCD can stay in touch with family and beloved ones. If they are frequently communicating with somebody then their attention on repetitive thoughts and rituals will be broken and there by they can be free from such thoughts and behaviors.

Children

Similar to the treatment of adults with OCD, CBT is the most effective technique for OCD in children. CBT is the first technique employed on children. Family should also involve, by providing behavioral observations and reports. It is a key component to the success of such treatments. Parental interventions also provide positive reinforcement for a child who exhibits appropriate behaviors as alternatives to compulsive responses.




Saturday, July 30, 2016

How to Overcome Anxiety or Nervousness or generalized anxiety disorder?

Are you anxious to know about anxiety?
Anxiety is sympathetic function but relaxation is parasympathetic function.


Anxiety disorder occurs due to excessive worry about all matter related to individuals life- health, money, work, relationships and so on. If this is not induced due to drugs, disease or drinking and is causing restlessness, irritability, sleep disturbance, unable to concentrate, blank minded feeling, pressure of doing a wrong decision, then it needs attention.


Anxiety is genetically carried by parents to children. If grand parents have anxiety, eventhough it might not get expressed in parents but get expressed in grand kids. So there is a need to seek help for anxiety.

People with shy or timid nature are easy victims of anxiety. If you are shy? Don't scold me!! It is just a theory that shy or timid people avoid risks. They try to protect themselves too much so they end up getting nervous.

 Symptoms of Anxiety
1. Hyper vigilance
People with anxiety scan their surrounding for any potential threats, multiple times. Eventhough they don't find any potential threats they assume some serious threat and get easily distracted from their work. Their hyper vigilance also contributes to difficulty in falling asleep.

2. Motor tension
    Individuals with this symptom are unable to relax, they are visibly shaky and tensed. Strained facial expressions are common. They have deep sighs. Such individuals are easily startled. You talk to them. You see them shaky.

3. Automatic reactivity
    In individuals with this symptoms, the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems seem to be working over time. There is some combination of sweating, dizziness, pounding or racing heart, hot or cold spells, cold and clammy hands, upset stomach. slight headache, frequent urination,high pulse and respiration rates. You shake their hand. You feel their sweat.

Treatment techniques to overcome anxiety disorder or nervousness

1. Diet planning

Involve marine food in the diet. That can be marine fish or any other food supplement which is made out of sea organisms. Fishes like salmon, sardines, mussels are rich in omega 3 fatty acids. Research has found out omega 3 fatty acids inhibit anxiety. I am sure you will become a sea food fan!. Ofcourse that's a good idea.
 
2. Extinction

Involves terminating of the reinforcement. That is if that person is getting any reward by being nervous, may be care, support or big attention. That should be stopped. Then the response of being nervous to conditioned stimulus becomes weak. The same technique is used to prevent temper tantram of children.
Now you remember why your mom ignored your tears and cries on that day!!!  

3. Relaxation

Ask person with anxiety rest on a bed. Please don't touch your friend on the bed. Ask him/her to focus on breath. Use the word 'relax....relax...relax'. Ask him/her  to tighten the toes. Later ask him/her to relax. Ask him/her  to tighten cop muscles. Ask him to relax. Gradually  go for all the muscle groups, one after the other till the head using the magical word 'relax...relax...relax'.
At the end ask him/her to shake their right hand fingers. If he/she  can shake them. Then ask  that person to slowly open eyes and sit.

Just wave your hand and ask 'hai! how do you feel?'.
Enjoy their answers.

4. Counter conditioning

If you get somebody nervous about cockroach. Ask them to close their eyes and remember their most favorite time. Ask the person to add some color, shape, odor, sound. Ask the person to enjoy that moment to the fullest extent. Ask the friend to slowly open eyes.

Now show your friend a cock roach. If your friend is nervous, ask him/ her to relax and imagine his/her favorite moment again.

With time the undesired response to eliciting situation get counter conditioned. I mean your friend becomes comfortable with cockroach.

5. Brisk walk

Twenty minutes brisk walk can suddenly reduce the anxiety response. They tell right? walking is the way to immortality. Of course it is the brisk walk dear, not a slow walk. You know brisk walk activates sweat  glands. This is the secret of brisk walk, in helping overcome anxiety or nervousness.

Are you planning to go for a brisk walk every day? Not necessary, dear; One day in a week take an excuse. Body needs rest. That's alright.

6. Tea therapy

Have you ever wondered how can monks sit tight for meditations for lots of hours?

Have your parents given you an example of monks ?
Don't worry I am not asking you to become a monk!!!

But how about having green tea, once in every two hours. Monks in shaolin temple, the birth place of kungfu have green tea.  That's why they sit for long hours in deep meditation. This little Chinese secret can help lot of people with anxiety.
Green tea is one of the best anxiety buster. It can help people overcome anxiety disorder easily.

7. Alternative medicine Supplements

a) Lemon balm
It has been used from middle ages. It is available as tea, capsule. If you are under medication, then you need to talk to the doctor before taking lemon balm. You need to start it with minimum dose. Too much of lemon balm causes anxiety. 
 
b) Lavender 
It has been successfully used to help students to face exam. It has also been used by lot of people to crack interview. It basically keeps the nerves cool.
Are you buying lavender oil and add few drops in bath tub?

c) Passion flower
I know what you are thinking. But it is not for passion. It can't help you in seducing men or women. You can't make anyone develop passion by using this. Actually this is used in sleep therapy. If anyone have disturbance in getting asleep then this is used. It also reduces the anxiety. It is similar to lemon balm.

8. Sauna
Enter in to a steam sauna or dry sauna. As it warms up the body. It keeps the mind cool. So nerves get relaxed and it prevents nervousness. To get better result you can add any one alternative medicine supplements (7 (a)-(c)).

Avoid beverages and tobacco. Because caffeine, alcohol or nicotine can induce anxiety.

It is a good idea to give positive reinforcement like doing something you like if you had reduced anxiety in some situation. You know it is like gifting a chocolate or ice-cream to a child for good behavior.




Thursday, July 28, 2016

How to manage anger or overcome explosive disorder?




Anger  is a state of mind which is aroused due to improper management of a situation.
Let's say Raju and Rosa are boyfriend and a girlfriend. They are loving each other from an year. One day Raju observes Rosa holding hand of a tall handsome man. Raju follows them. Finally Rosa and that handsome guy board a Benz. The car moves ahead with top speed.

Now Raju unable to handle that situation, he shouts all vulgar. His brain starts boiling with anger and he rushes through the road on his bike. He meets with an accident. He gets hospitalized.

Rosa loves him you know, she comes running to his room, crying, sobbing. She tries to comfort him. He starts scolding her. But Rosa does not get angry. She is a girl with techniques to manage anger. With lot of love and care she handles his words and convinces him that handsome guy in benz was her brother who had returned from USA.

It is easy  to explode with anger but the result you pay is worth more than billion dollars. you see Raju would have lost his love. So have you ever wondered  how you can overcome explosive disorder or manage anger. Don't  worry just go through the blog to know about the techniques  to manage anger:


Technique 1:Pseudo- Auditory triggered arousal


   It is simple. Just sing a romantic track (old bollywood songs) in mind. Enjoy the lyrics. Enjoy the acoustic of the music. Enjoy the tone, voice variation, pitch of the singer. Try to mimic the same tone, voice, pitch. Start playing the rhythm of music on any solid surface like bench, desk or table. Make it slow, make it effective,  make it acoustic, make it romantic. Who knows you might get a girl or a guy who will be strongly  mesmerized by your musical talent. You might find a new romance partner!!!
Make sure you teach him or her some beats on table or desk using palms and fingers. I am sure your new friend will stick to you for  longer friendship.
You know managing anger gives you gifts!!!


Technique 2:Hyrdo- therapy


Splash cool water on the face. Hold water in palms and open and close eyes in the water. Later put some water in the nostrils (but don't  inhale water). Put your palms in a bucket containing cool water and clap your palms again and again under water. This will release the pent up emotion and relax your mind.


Technique 3:Oral sensory acuity


Put  jaggery or any mint in your mouth and play with tongue, but do not chew it. Just enjoy the taste the jaggery or any mint gives when it mixes with saliva in the mouth. Let the mint dissolve slowly in saliva. When your focus shifts from anger to the taste of saliva. You get disoriented from anger. Your mind starts eliciting pleasure response when you get anger because, your mind get associated with the pleasure of enjoying jaggery or mint with anger. This response gets habituated with time. Eventhough you don't use jaggery or mint after 3months, the chain of response will continue and anger becomes weak. Thereby you rewired the anger with pleasure.


Technique 4: Pseudo-Visual arousal



The moment you get angry, imagine you are having some good romance with your loved one. Valorize the love scene. Add color, shape, texture, posture, flirt, smile, feelings and emotions to it. Add as many details to it as possible. When you reach the climax of happiness, just stay in that moment for some time. This will help your neurological pathways to reprogram. This ensures stimulus extinction and your anger becomes weak with time.


Technique 5: Mudra therapy



Touch tip of thumb with tip of little finger and ring finger. Make all other fingers straight. This mudra generates static energy in palms and the brain will be stimulated to subside the anger.